Wednesday, 6 May 2015

Is Chivalry dead?

Hello, Pamscribers, good day and how is your day going? Today's post is in no way condemning, just an observation from my part.

First of all, I'll like to ask, What happened to romance in relationships? By romance, I don't mean the bedroom job and all that, I mean holding hands in public, appreciating your man/woman in and outside the house, hugging and even kissing him/her in public. Yes, some-people are too shy to be kissed in public, what about the others who craves for the attention? Those people who actually wants you to flaunt them to the public eye, to your friends and all. What happened to chivalry? Is the age of being "a gentleman" dead and buried? Does it have to do with our colour, race or has the economy played a part?

A friend was telling me of him standing at a bus stop to enter a bus with a host of people. A bus pulled up and him seeing the pregnant lady still standing, he alighted and offered his seat to her, thus, waiting for another bus. He was mocked and called a JJC. Was It bad he did that? Has being in a rat race deprived us of being human? When I see guys dragging bus and pushing the ladies away just to grab the one remaining seat in a bus, I just shake my head in disappointment. What happened to opening the car door for your lady instead of the annoying beep sound, and then you tell her to open? What happened to you holding out the chair for her to sit in?

There is this guy I know, I knew him through the cousin. There is this "aloofness" about him. Presently, he is dating four different gals at the same time, and none of them the wiser. One of the gals, he has been dating her for the past six years and when asked if he has future plans for her, his response was an emphatic "NO". As a matter of fact, he isn't ready to settle down and if he was, he isn't going to settle down with any of them. I angrily asked him, what was he doing with them all, especially, the lady that he's been dating for six years plus, why was he giving them false hope and why in heavens name is he dating four girls at the same time?

If there is another word for being selfish, then, that's the word for him. Despite the fact that he is working, he doesn't believe in giving the girl(s) his dating money, says "love aint money". Another thing that pains me most about him, is his total disrespect for the ladies he dates. He doesn't believe in walking a gal with a gal, it's either she is far off in front and he is far off behind or vice versa. The rude and disrespectful manner he talks about the ladies angers me. The worse is that, he flaunts himself as the most handsome guy who can date any gal he wants to cos they trip for him, even without him spending a dime on them, rather they even spend on him. He calls himself a God's gift to women, he collects cash and gifts from them and says, his attention is worth more. You may be surprised how I knew all these, I have been really studying him for a long time and we also happen to live close-by.

If any of the ladies comes visiting and is going back home, he just drops them by the gate and she will find her way home. Says walking with a lady to the bus or the bustop is unwanted publicity, he would rather not have. Yes, I know most of you would be wondering his ethnicity and tribe. I rather not say cos this isn't about that rather it's a personality thing. Most attimes, I look and listen to him and wish, what do the gals really see in him? His pride and ego is second to none. There are a lot of people guilty of this act and it's not only restricted to guys alone, yes, the ladies are guilty too.

That some-people have made up their mind to love you doesn't give you the right to make a fool out of them or take them fore-granted. This is bad. They seem to forget that they have siblings or future children who karma will visit. Ofcourse, karma is a bit*ch or female dog, whichever you choose. So be wise and behave better. Cheers my lovelies and do have a beautiful day.

9 comments:

  1. As I read this article, all I think about is Jerry . I will not spill it yet until next week. But I've come to know that romance is highly underrated. Romance is the way to go in a relationship.

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  2. I don't blame that guy, I blame the girls frolicking around him.are they blind that they can see his evil writings? Smh!

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  3. Hmmm..well it's left for ladies to be wise and not fall for such scum berg .

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  4. Yeah romance has been carved out of most relationships. I still do with my husband in fact I am the one that is shy sometimes. And to that guy he must surely reap what he is sowing.

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  5. Romance is something that most people have lost and they need the intense searxh and inner looking to find it

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  6. This is not about romance(you cannot compare the white with us blacks)...its about love, respect.
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  7. Nice write up, i love this article i must confess. Girls nowadays should just be wise, if a guy doesn't love you it is usually clear but most times girls are too blind in love to notice it. No matter how good looking a guy might be or no matter how rich he may be if he doesn't love you then you can't be happy in that relationship. I just believe that there is a guy out there for every girl, develop yourself as a girl, be the right person a guy needs and trust me you won't have to pursue guys.
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  8. The girls frolicking with him are the foolish ones. Men these days scare me. The other day I was at computer village. My phone rang and I got out to take the call. When I returned, some hefty guy had taken my seat and when I politely asked him to release it for me, dude wanted to pick up a fight with me.

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  9. The girls frolicking with him are the foolish ones. Men these days scare me. The other day I was at computer village. My phone rang and I got out to take the call. When I returned, some hefty guy had taken my seat and when I politely asked him to release it for me, dude wanted to pick up a fight with me.

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