Tuesday, 27 January 2015

Dear Married People...

Looking at the high rate of divorce cases in the world especially now in Nigeria, I begin to ask, what's the fate of we single ones? What hope do we single ones have?  I and a lot of single ones out there begin to ask if marriage is really worth the try?

Dear married people, I know that there are ups and downs when it comes to marriage but the question is, what extra efforts did you take/have u taken to make it work?

Sometimes I wonder how our parents worked the magic in their days. My mum says patience, perseverance and most especially God's grace. It really isn't easy for two grown-ups to leave together without hiccups no matter how lovestruck they are, even siblings fight.
I know of a couple that don't say upto ten sentences in a day. They even sleep in separate rooms and its not as if they are having issues in their marriage and the marriage isn't up to three years yet.  According to the wife, that wasn't how they were while dating. So what must have led to the sudden change?

A lot of people complain about their spouses changing to a different person after they get married, the next thing, divorce. This isn't our(Africans) culture. Sometimes, it isn't easy to stand what's happening in the home, but remember the vows are for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do you path. This vow basically covers everything so why not make it work.

Some of you may say, by d way what does she know, she isn't married yet, why should she give marriage advice. Yea, that's true, what do I even know? All I may know is that, there would have been less divorce cases if more efforts were made to make the marriage work. Do you know that broken homes affects the kids at the long run, both psychologically, emotionally and otherwise?

Yes, most people are still in there marriages just because of there kids, others are in hell on earth, hmmm, I can't begin to talk about the disheartening stories I've seen, heard and read about, God save us all. The more this things are happening, a single person out there is giving up on ever settling down, someone is making a decision to remain a single mum/dad 4 life with no hope of getting married. Someone out there is scared of marriage and asking if it's even worth it?

Please dear married people, try to work out your issues, communicate more, talk, visit a councillor and don't ever forget that prayer is d master key, without prayers we are reduced to nothing, pray more and seek God's face cos with God, all things are possible. So that finally we the single ones will have a reason to say, yes marriage is really worth it. Cheers.


  1. it is well. indeed patience can help in a marriage. nice piece

  2. So can I just say this - Pamela you write really good and it's super catchy!!.... I sorta a silent reader tho'....


  3. If you ask me,a lot of people don't understand what marriage is...it's a covenant not a contract.

  4. Awww Tibs, thanks dear I really appreciate. Abeg oo, dnt be a silent reader ooo. Encourage a sister, comment. Lolz. U gat a lovely blog too

  5. hmmmmn! the man is the head of the family while the woman is the head of a home.
    marriage i must say or confess is sweet but its not always rosy,i am jst 7months old but within the 7months i have learnt alot.i learnt to overlook my hubby excesses,i dont turn every small argument to a fight.i leARNT TO LOVE HIM MORE AND TREATS HIM LIKE A BABY COS ALL MEN ARE BABIES.
    my advice for single ladies is marry your friend,if you do you will have less issues and above all set everything at the feet of christ.and dont marry because of mnoney...i could go on and on but am mega tired*yawn*


  6. Interesting read, understanding too is another factor that helps a marriage stay strong.

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  7. Thanks for this post Pam, really encouraging. www.alabekee.blogspot.com

  8. The rate of divorce in Nigeria alone, is so alrming. Let's not even talk about the world at large. I couldn't agre more with this post. Let the married stay married. Haba!


  9. Me don't much about marriage; but I compare it with growing up; the way we relate with our brothers/sisters/cousins and friends. You love/hate them most times. You wanna be far away from them; but through forgiveness,compromise,sacrifice,accepting the dynamics of personal/individual differences,accepting their flaws, appreciating the good in them, tolerance and above all the grace is what makes those relationships stand with our very own. l always think this needs to be carried in marriages.

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