What is MARRIAGE without SHARING?

Every marriage brings about two different and distinct people to be as one, irrespective of race, religion, creed, affiliation, nationality, etc. The man/husband as head of the home has the wife/ mother as the home maker.

Nowadays, its common to see both couple work and striving to meet the needs of the family especially in the economy/society we find ourselves in. Gone are those days of "housewife" except your husband is super-rich, Lolz, or maybe unemployment. In most cases, wives are even earning more than their husbands now, I know a few that does.


Weeks ago, while talking with a friend of mine, he asked me a question that not only shocked me but got me thinking. He asked "Is it wrong for a husband to know how much his wife earns, and is it wrong for a wife to help in the upkeep of their home?" I couldn't answer that. In my naive mind, I assumed marriage was all about sharing and once you are pronounced man and wife, you have automatically become one person in different bodies. I can imagine his hurt to ask me. Wetin I know about marriage?

As sad as his story is, his case isn't the only one. Married women are known to be economical and prudent (a word learnt from my mum). They are great managers of the home. But what I tend to ask is, what do you do with all your money while your husband brings his? My friend told me that, not for once has his wife brought out a dime, even when he's really broke and don't have enough to drop for the house upkeep, she doesn't even shake. He actually confessed that what pushed him to telling me all these was that recently he renewed his house-rent and barely had anything on him, so no money to drop for feeding. He went to work, came back very hungry to an empty house. When he asked his wife for his dinner, she simply said no food cos he didn't drop money.

WT..!!!, he was so angry at her and asked what she does with her money, all she said was, the money is hers and not his. As at when he was discussing with me, they were sleeping in separate rooms. Kasala for house. Mehn, I didn't know what to say, all but "take it easy on her.".

Please, why should some ladies do this? This is not the first time I've heard or read about this. What's the worst that could happen when you share things together? He's your husband for crying out loud. On the other hand, what do I know, by the way I'm not married right? But I strongly believe that people should avoid simple things as this that could destroy your home. No be everything devil they cause.

Biko, what do you all think of this? Your thoughts, Let's chat friends. Do have a great week. Tomorrow is GUESTPOST TUESDAY, share that experience, that stuff bothering you that you need advice on. I'm expecting your mail. My email remains, pamciekeem@gmail.com. Cheers.