Hi Pam and the wonderful Pamscribers. Hope you all are doing great. Pam please do not disappear on us again, welcome back though. OK, this is my story, I'll make it really short.
I am dating this cool lady and have even engaged her and met her people last year that I came into the country. I stay in Turkey, she stays in UK. Now, we recently called off the relationship /engagement cos we can't seem to agree to a mutual term.
The problem here is that, she has built her life in UK and has refused to leave there, I on the other hand, is doing so well here and the company I work for has given me good opportunities whereby I travel all around the world and have met good people and made connections, but that's not a problem.
OK, I suggested we move back to Nigeria together where we both have branches of our different companies but she blatantly refused, and believe me, we've been quarreling since then. This long distance thing is killing my spirit. How can we be married and live in different states. It doesn't make sense at all. So we mutually called off the whole thing.
While dating though, I still ensure I see her at least, once in two-four months. Distance relationship ish.
Our families are asking us what's up, but nothing is up. We ain't getting married again.
My fellow people, please what would we have done in this case? Did we take the right step? Please advice. Thanks.
Am just a kid but I think you have made the right decision, its not easy for maRriage to survive when its in its first year distance would only make matters worse
ReplyDeleteI think that's the right decision sha..im not a lover of distant relationships...take more of distance marriage...
ReplyDeleteOut of sight is out of mind. You took a bold step by callng off the engagement cos it would have been disastrous being in a long distance marriage
ReplyDeletedistance relationship is a barrier in relationships.only few scale through it.since none of you want to come to term to an agreement ,its better you go seperate ways
ReplyDeleteYou can't keep a marriage through phone conversation. Yes you guys made the right choice it's better you don't start than get into it and start regretting..
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Torr the elders have said it all. Marriage is a forever contract and since you two can't seem to find a common ground, terminate that contract.
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ReplyDeleteI'm still a learner. But one thing is, COMMUNICATION - Keeping in touch is key.
ReplyDeleteI would think the issue of where to live would've been settled before deciding to marry, seeing as you can't come to an agreement, a compromise will have to be reached, but seeing that neither party is willing to do so -then its best to part ways. Best wishes.
ReplyDeleteThey've said it all, you took the right step. Just move on, you will find your own.
ReplyDeleteMove on. A million fishes in the sea. Marriage is all about compromise and it doesn't look like you both are ready to do that yet.
ReplyDelete@poster, you tried by making a good suggestion for both of you but self centeredness wouldn't let her....
ReplyDeleteI don't support distant relationship, I can't deal menh
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Long distance relationship? count me out ! the only time i was away from wify was when she gave birth to our first daughter, she spent a very agonizing forty days away from me. that was the first and the last that i have ever stayed away from her for more than seven days!
ReplyDeleteI just don't like long distance relationships. I've had bad experiences with all my past LDRs. The lack of intimacy and even not being able to see one another is agonizing.
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