Good day my dear Pamscribers, sorry for starving you of your morning breakfast. I apologize and would do my best to make up. Hope the fuel fiasco has abated and gone back to the status quo. I really thank God that the craziness has stopped cos I was really beaten big time, it affected my every every but thank God we are back and better. I won't forget to thank you all for your words of encouragement, you are da bomb. God bless you all. To the post of the day:
A lot of notions have risen whereby sex has been linked to love, so the question is, Is sex a prove of Love?
In today's world, sex has been used more as an instrument, a bargaining chip to get what you want, also it has been used as a prove of love and all other things associated with it. The popular slogan of "using what you have to get what you want" is gaining popularity and becoming a norm now. Sex is becoming and has become a currency in which love, affection, attention, money, power etc is bought and sold. I read in a magazine the other day about a guy that wanted the galfriend to have sex wit him to prove she loves him? How absurd!!! So, if she doesn't have sex, does that mean she doesn't love him? #shakeshead.
Most of us ladies have either had situations where sex has been asked of us for favours, jobs, appointments, gifts etc. Turning it down or accepting is purely our choice. In terms of sex in the married context, couples either way can starve their spouse of sex to either show their anger/hate towards something or person, teach a lesson, or just a classic case of wanting your "better half" to want you more. In any scenario, sex and love may seem intertwined but aint the same. A man can have sex with a gal and not feel a thing for her and vice versa. Women are now masters in the art of "using" a man. #winks.
For what its worth, next time he or she asks/begs/pleads for a show of love, a sign through sex, just point to the next available exit, a little nudge or push is allowed or even a slap will give them a brain reset. So my dearies, do not fall for that old trick of proving your Love for someone through sex, they ain't the same and that person isn't worth your Love.
Do have a blast.
Hello Pamscribers, how are you all doing today? Abeg, make una no vex cos I've not been able to up my game of recent. So many things are the causer of it joor.
To be frank with you, I really don't know what to write about today cos my brain is currently going through a re-start process, so please I only came here to holla at you all. Also today is supposed to be a guest post day but none came in, blame it on the low battery and everything that has happened within this period, I really understand.
I just want to tell you all to hold on tight and strong cos there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Everything will be alright soon, this is our daily prayers. It's well with our souls. Amen.
Do takia of yourselves, and I hope I really get refreshed tomorrow for a killer post, so till then, biko make una manage this one like that. Lolz. #tongueout.
How una dey all thee Pamscribers, happy new work week to you all. Despite all the wahala, biko happy new week. A year or two ago, Lagos was adjudged as one of the worst places to live in in terms of security, health, amenities, sanitation, housing etc. Now, it's worster (biko, permit me to use that word).
For those residing in Lagos, aka, Eko, I presume the fuel situation is worth a story. A friend was telling us about colleagues at work that now sleep at work, just to save transport of going home and returning the next day, all due to the persistent fuel shortage. As at this moment, you are willing to spend the money for the outrageous fare but there isn't enough buses. I was at the bustop by past 6am and the queue at the bustop was as if there was a huge riot.
My street that is always noisy from both diesel and fuel operated generators has all of a sudden become quiet, wonders of fuel scarcity. Transport is now sky high and now, seeing people trek is now a norm. Either the fare is too high or no buses.
For one of the first times in my adult life, banks, radio stations, airlines and even telecommunications outfits have been made to suffer, operations, services have almost been shut down or working at its minimum. I'm sure, the rest of the world is laughing at us right now, with a smirk of their face, we as self acclaimed "Giant of Africa", oil producing and yet, can't cater for its citizenry. What irony. Did you guys see the insults rained on us by the whites? Read that in Linda Ikeji's blog. Though, I got angry but we really deserved it.
A quote comes to mind, "he who the gods want to kill, they first make mad", is Nigeria that? Is oil a gift or curse?
I'm pained, angry, vexed, haven't had light in days now and thus, no water, no fuel to power the generator for those who have, pump water, my phone charger is now permanent at work. The fuel subsidy saga sounds like soft porn, compared to this now.
I overheard someone say he bought fuel at #500, per litre!!!!!!!, with an adjusted meter oo, WTF !!! 😬. A colleague said he entered 500 naira from his place to the bustop close to my office, something he normally enters 100 naira before this whole thing.
Nigeria, which way forward biko? The government of the day better do something about this or I'm relocating to Benin Republic. Please, who can help me with directions?
#bringbackourfuel.
Happy Sunday to you all. A new work week beckons. Due to the continued fuel shortage/scarcity, my story bank has dried up pending when supply will occur. My apologies are heartfelt and sincere.
Yes, its another week, the last in the month of May. For most of us, month end brings us as much joy as Christmas to a child. A paycheck is on its way. Yes, but this time around I'm not happy at all. What's there to be happy about (apart from life) when almost all the money will go to transportations due to the undying fuel scarcity.
Please what is going on? I really feel like ranting today but today isn't Thursday, moreover I'm too weak for that. Imagine me standing at my work bustop around past 5am, and was there for more than 30 minutes cos there was no bus. My prayer was that I shouldn't be mobbed. I also noticed that for the past 3days now, cars are being parked overnight at a particular filling station close to my office, ofcourse, it's at their own risk, but what's the probability that the filling station will even sell?
I was passing by and overheard a car owner literally begging a black market seller to please sell a 7litres of fuel for 3500 naira, but the guy insisted on 4k last while walking away. Have you noticed that radio stations are now closing up really early for two days or more now. Classic fm started by 12pm and closed by 3pm today to resume 6am tomorrow, cos they are rationing. For people who have light, how are the TV stations doing?
In fact, this has turned to a mini tantrum post. I'm so angry joor. This is killing the masses. Do they expect Buhari to magically tell them to start selling fuel immediately he's sworn in or what? Is it his government that has refused to pay the debt? How long are we gonna remain like this in this country? How can an oil producing nation suffer like this? I'm tired joor.
Mum and Dad should better be Americans or Canadians in the next world cos I don't wanna be born here. No offence biko.
Una takia and a happy Sunday to you all. #straightface.
Good morning Pamscribers. My apologies again for not posting this yesterday morning. Hope I'm forgiven? Let us all dwell on these inspirational quotes to be our guide. Be inspired.
In the confrontation between the stream and the rock, the stream always wins - not through strength but by perseverance.
― H. Jackson Brown
Don't be discouraged. It's often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock.
― Author Unknown
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go.
― William Feather
When the world says, "Give up," Hope whispers, "Try it one more time."
― Author Unknown
The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
― Rocky Balboa
When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place.
― Author Unknown
Don't give up cos there are a thousand reasons to stay strong. Remain inspired my lovelies and a beautiful Sunday to you all. See u later today.
What is love without that glee, tingly , butterflies in the tummy feeling. But the question I want to ask is, does that feeling last forever, or does it fade off with time? After 10yrs with your spouse, do you still look at him or her and still have that butterfly in the tummy feeling?
I'm not a professional when it comes to love matters that's why I read a lot, and ask a lot of questions. I'm sure my married friends are tired of me and my incessant questions.
I've asked a few people the above questions, some said it won't be like that especially when the kids start coming, and with so many responsibilities, both of you will barely notice each other. A few others actually said that the glee will still remain there despite their full hands.
Now, this shit scares the hell out of me. You see, I love LOVE so much and I would love both of us to still have that glee deep within us even when we are over a hundred and grey with little or no teeth left in our mouth. I want to stare at him nd say, dear God, I love this man. I want to out of the ordinary carry this smirk on my face just about thinking of him. I really want to be drunk in love. I don't want us to ever fall out of love with each other.
So you see why it baffles me when I see or hear married people falling out of love with each other, especially when they were inseparable while dating. Statements like "this wasn't the man or woman I fell in love with" baffles me. Where did that man or woman go? Did an alien get into them or something?
Love should indeed be eternal and not temporary. Let me rest my case here.
So what do you friends think, can you still look at your partner and have that same feeling you had when you initially started dating? If eventually you fall out of love with someone, what do you do to fall back in love with the person? Take a break and later come back or just move on out of the relationship? Let's Gist dearies.
TGIF, do have a blast my lovelies. E-kisses and E-hugs to you all. I have a wedding to attend tomorrow after more than 4years, and which happens to be the 4th wedding I've attended since I was born. Lolz.
Hello, welcome again to inspire us today. Hope we all dwell on these quotes as it inspires our day. Cheers.
Men's best successes come after their disappointments.~ Henry Ward Beecher
The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person's determination.~ Tommy Lasord
Victory belongs to the most persevering.~ Napoleon Bonaparte
It's never too late to be what you might have been.~ George Eliot
The harder you work, the harder it is to surrender.~ Vince Lombardi
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you.~ David Burns
Stay inspired. See you soon.
Hello Pamscribers, how una dey? It's another Thursday of throwing tantrums concerning things that has pushed us to the wall during the week.
Some of these keke napep drivers can be so annoying. I entered one this week, and even as I screamed "owa oo" when I got to my bustop, the guy still kept on moving, and later dropped me at a place very far from my bustop. Upon that, he showed no remorse neither did he apologise concerning what he did, even as we all were shouting at him. I was so pissed at him and it took the fear for God for me to pay him his fare, although I had this strong will not to pay him. Imagine, he didn't even apologise, kept on proving unnecessary right. I almost regretted paying him the money oo, make I no lie. I would have walked away without paying him a dime, let him do his worse, thankGod, police station was close by.
This sun is too much oo, abeg, let it take it easy on us biko.
I'm tired of talking about fuel wahala and NEPA, I've got myself a rechargeable fan, so that settles the heat small.
Oya, talk your own. Cheers.
Good morning my lovelies, how are you all doing today, hope great? It's another morning of inspirational quotes, let us all dwell on it, and remain inspired.
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.~ Booker T. Washington
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.~ Maria Robinson
I am careful not to confuse excellence with perfection. Excellence, I can reach for; perfection is God's business.~ Michael J. Fox
The greatest mistake you can make in life is to continually be afraid you will make one.~ Elbert Hubbard
We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.~ Charles R. Swindoll
Be inspired. See you all later in the day.
I've talked about this a little previously but I'll want to throw more light to it.
Can you as a lady ask a guy out, or tell a guy that you'll like both of you to become an item.
Yes, you've been showing all the necessary green light, but he seems too blind to notice it. Will you swallow your pride and walk up to him saying "bro, I like you and I want us to date, what do you think?" Or would you rather build a mansion with your pride and watch him walk into another girl's life while you watch and pout?
I know most of our answers will be "Nooo, I can't do that abeg", I assume this is because we live in a society that kinda frowns on "that", and some guys may term the girl cheap and even take advantage of the opportunity. But, do you know that some other guys who really see this as bravery on the girls part? I know of a couple who started with the lady taking the first step.
Some ladies may not want to gamble or take the chances but isn't it worth a try? Guys, didn't some gals reject you even after letting your intentions known? But did the rejection stop you from trying again with someone else?
I just think that we girls should try and give this a shot. Some guys are too blind or too shy to tap into your flashy green light but you can help them by taking the first step. Strike a conversation, exchange pins, numbers, try to find out what he does for fun, movie or football. If movie, talk about a latest movie you'll like to see at the cinema, ask if he's interested to join.
If football, talk about an upcoming match that you'll want to watch in a viewing centre, and ask if he'll like to join. Share opinions. Be vast and creative. Yes, yours was an unofficial date, but with your efforts, he won't know when he fixes an official date. Make sure you don't force or throw yourself at him, so he will respect you. Sex isn't love. If you notice he's misinterpreting your efforts as sexual advances, run with your two legs biko, he's not worth you at all.
Reason for this post is that I once allowed a good guy slip from my grasp and that it hurt was an understatement. I showed all the green lights but he was a shy person to approach me, only for me to watch another gal come and grab him oo. I was so hurt, especially when a mutual friend of ours told me that the guy really liked me but was scared of my bossy look. Which bossy look kwa. All thanks to my bossy look, I lost that guy. Lolz. But if I had done the above tips, he would have known how interested I am, and would give him the liver to talk his mind. Mtchww. Once beaten, twice shy oo. Can't happen again. Lolz. I know some of you may try to deny this, but you've been in a similar situation too.
So ladies, let's stop dying in silence by allowing the guys to always be the first in everything. Be the first sometimes. Don't be clouded by the1960 mentality, this is the 21st century. Ehmm, to the married women, so if konji is holding you big time, but oga no start show, you'll allow it die down? Why not be the first to start. I shouldn't be the one to tell you what to do cos I never marry oo. But we know that we are the seductress, everything in our body is tempting, use yours wisely for your husbands, believe me, he's going to carry this big smirk on his face all through the day.
Do have a lovely day Cribbers. Remember ladies, be creative. Don't allow another gal sway herself into a guy you've been working hard on, grab him wisely before she does. Hey, I didn't ask you to fight ooo, cos na only you waka go be that. Lolz.
Good morning Pamscribers , hope you all slept well. It's another beautiful morning, so let us dwell on this few inspiration quotes.
The abundant life does not come to those who have had a lot of obstacles removed from their path by others. It develops from within and is rooted in strong mental and moral fiber.~ William Mather Lewis
Courage is about doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared.~ Eddie (Edward) Rickenbacker
One of the most courageous things you can do is identify yourself, know who you are, what you believe in and where you want to go.~ Sheila Murray Bethel
For every person who doubts you, tells you, you will fail, try twice as hard to prove them wrong.~ Author Unknown
Above all, challenge yourself. You may well surprise yourself at what strengths you have, what you can accomplish.~ Cecile Springer
Be inspired. See you all later today. Cheers.
Hello Pam, I wanna bare my mind about something. As an avid reader of your blog, I say "thumbs up" for the good work.
Am a twenty six (26) year old male, have been dating my babe for more than three months now, and we are really serious.
As at three weeks ago, my girlfriend's younger sister came back from school and I got to meet her. A week or so ago after that, she sent me a message via WhatsApp, which I think she got my number from her sister's because I can't remember giving it to her. She was saying how much she likes and loves me, how she couldn't sleep since she saw me, confessing about wanting me and all that, even to the extent of sending her nudes to me and explicit chat. I have cautioned her and told her that I'm her sister's boyfriend, but what she said later shocked me. She said that she doesn't mind being my mistress even when I marry her sister. It will only be a secret between us. I won't bore you with all the details.
I really don't know what to do. I'm shocked that girls do these things. She doesn't mind hurting her sister, just to be with me. To say I'm shocked is an understatement.
Pam, I don't know wat to do, should I tell the sister, or act like nothing happened. Have stopped chatting with her for days now, but her calls and messages haven't stopped. Would my silence prevail and make her go, or should I tell the sister? Cribbers, give me your say on this matter. Thanks.
Good morning Crib mates. Hope you all are doing well today. It's another morning of inspirations, let us dwell on these quotes as it lifts our spirits. They may be short but they have stronger and deeper meaning.
Pray, and let God worry.
~Martin Luther
Dream big and dare to fail.
~Norman Vaughan
A leader is a dealer in hope.
~Napoleon Bonaparte
If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door.
~Milton Berle
You cannot expect victory and plan for defeat.
~Joel Osteen
If you're going through hell, keep going.
~Winston Churchill
Stones and sticks are thrown only at fruit-bearing trees.
~Sumi
Remain inspired my lovelies. See you later today.
Good morning my beauties and my handsomes, hope you all are doing great today? May the peace of the Lord be upon us all. Amen.
You might be surprised at how early I am today, yes, I'm introducing something beautiful to Pammie's Crib. "Inspire us today" is going to be based on few motivational quotes which will help in uplifting our spirits every morning. Remain inspired, cos I will be.
The following list of quotes are not just motivating, but makes you think outside the box. Life is difficult but a few encouraging words can make all the difference in the world.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.~ Henry David Thoreau.
If you have the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.~ David Viscott
When your back is to the wall and you are facing fear head on, the only way is forward and through it.~ Stephen Richards in "Releasing You from Fear"
A brighter tomorrow is just around the corner.
Walking your talk is a great way to motivate yourself. No one likes to live a lie. Be honest with yourself, and you will find the motivation to do what you advise others to do.~ Vince Poscente.
Till we meet later today, REMAIN INSPIRED.
The long awaited day is here, TGIF. I wish I was a princess living in a big mansion, with all I need around me, and never ever thinking about working in this life. Am I the only one that has this fantasy? Lol. Hmm, if wishes were indeed horses....., but I'm working this weekend. So it isn't TGIF for me. #sobs.
For the last couple of weeks and months, whenever I open a paper or blog, what would be staring back at me would be what I call "the trekking trend". Somebody is trekking for someone. Be it GEJ, Buhari etc. Is the trek for popularity, solidarity or awareness? Seems this trekking thing is now a Nigerian thing. The fad of the moment. When GEJ won the 2011 elections, I can't recall how many people did trek for him then, can you? Even when Naija won the Nations cup after a 13 years wait, no one, not even I, did trek to support our triumphant heroes.
I have come to see that this "trek fad" is endemic to politicians only and Nigeria. Obama became the first ever black man to occupy the oval office and not one man trekked in support of Obama. Abi the trekking thing na seasonal? #wondering.
I seriously don't get this. What's with the trekking? Is it that they don't have jobs, cos if they do, who will permit them to exercise such stupidity? What pains me is that of a woman trekking with her 4 months old baby strapped to her back. Why risk the life of an innocent child biko?
The other lady trekker showed us a picture of her peeled legs, is that for us to sympathise with her? Who send her message?
Like I asked in a blog, how do they even charge their phones, since they sleep at the road side? And to the ladies, how do they cope when their monthly flow starts? Ladies will understand better. Do they even bath? Is there a price attached to their trekking? Automatic employment or cash? Abeg, I just tire. It's all senseless. If they had told them to match against corruption, fuel scarcity or unemployment, will they have done that? I'm vexing joor.
I seriously think that unemployment has a part to play here. So please, more jobs should be provided, which will make people more occupied with better things than trekking for politicians. I rest my case.
Do have a wonderful weekend Crib mates. E-kisses.
Hallos my beautiful and handsome people on this blog, how y'all doing? As for me, I'm doing great, all thanks to Baba God oo, He's been so good to me and mine. All praise to Him.
This is to welcome you to another episode of Tantrum Thursday, a forum where we rant our hearts out on issues that affected us during the week. Instead of carrying the weight of your anger all around, why not let it all out here. So here's mine.
Abeg, what is happening to this fuel stuff, e still use style scarce small. Has anybody heard anything so far about curbing the scarcity? Cos the transport hike is really dealing with me and the money that I've already budgeted for transport this month is almost finished. I'm almost at the verge of using feeding money for transport. This thing should just stop. It's no longer a joke anymore.
Whatever thing they are doing up there should just stop, it's seriously affecting the masses. Hmmm, even my neighbour that claims he can't sleep without light, who runs the generator all through the night, disturbing the peace of his neighbours now sleeps without it. When I jokingly asked him what happened, he replied that he couldn't get fuel, I just said, "I thought you can't sleep without light", he couldn't say anything. Lolz. Don't mind me oo, that guy is kinda annoying with him claiming right that he can run his noisy generator all through the night, not minding who he's disturbing with it. People should learn how to be considerate and learn that the world doesn't revolve around them.
Ehmm, the rain that beat me yesterday was something else. I just dey like fowl wey water pour for im body. No be small thing oo. I was just telling myself, Pam, shey you've been praying for rain all these while, oya na, see rain now. The worst part was that there was no shelter around the bustop, neither was there any bus to quickly jump in to. So, I just stood there, dey really pity my cold self.
Abeg, I don't have anything else to say, but please they should do something about this fuel issue BIKO.
Your turn.
Today is another Friday and TGIF, another day where we actually breath a sigh of relief from the long week.
During the week, most of us had gone through a lot that actually almost had us to quit, throw in the towel, roll over and play dead, yet, we never gave up to give in, cause like it's said, "almost no dey kill bird".
You will go through a helluva more, it's your choice to give up. Are you a quitter at the first trial? Do you succumb to defeat and like many say "I have tried"? And that is just after one attempt. If our lives were to be made out in a movie, who would star as you in the movie (who dey cry pass for Naija film?) Would your part be played by our own Nkem Owoh, who sees a good side in every bad deal? Life doesn't come with a manual, we learn everyday.
Mistakes are what we learn from, not generally our's, but others too. Making the same mistake twice is stupidity. When you look back at your life now, what mistakes defined you? If you could turn back the hands of time, which mistake would you wish you didn't make? My own plenty ooo. Fulls cap go full am. We didn't sit down and mop, we forged on, that's the hallmark of a successful person.
The greatest revenge to those who said you wouldn't make it is to be successful. I do believe in you, do same for yourself.
From today, stand up, dust yourself up, keep your head up, smile and try again. Successful people never give up. I won't, would you? Have a lovely weekend my lovelies. E-hugs.
Over the past week, thanks to the scarcity of fuel, I was stuck in a bus as the driver had to wait on a long queue to buy fuel, after collecting our fares. Can you imagine that!! The refuse collectors in my area decided to take a mandatory strike, thus, our refuse had to stay outside and cause not only an eyesore, or air pollution, but it brought rodents and cat-like rats to scavenge and litter the place. Saw a rat and I literally stood transfixed. The rat was huge. Lagos rats na wa oooo.
The incessant power outage is now a norm. Two whole days we didn't have light, and when PHCN did find it in their heart to pity us with light, it came in form of a voltage so high, it burnt people's electronics, we had to even beg them to take it. God is watching.
Fuel scarcity has helped hike the cost of transport fares. Getting to work now is war, traffic has increased times two. Please they should just do something about it.
So Crib mates, what happened to you over the past week?
I read something on Stella's blog a few days ago which made me scream the WTF word. This curse thing is real. A guy first asked his girlfriend to swear she isn't sleeping around, when she swore, he later cursed her that no man but him will go "in" there and live. The irony was that, as the gal swore the oath, the guy didn't, thus, making him not as vulnerable as the gal. He hasn't renounced it yet as at that time.
This took me back to weeks ago when I and a few friends were talking about curses. A lady in our midst said that during her University days, she broke up with her boyfriend, only for the guy to place a curse on her saying she won't ever find love. She was scared to the bones, but the guy renounced it after few days. Now I know of a girl that the same thing happened to but she didn't believe it, after 4 years of having failed relationships, she remembered the curse and went back to her ex and begged him to renounce the curse. The guy laughed over it and said that he didn't mean it back then, the girl insisted, so he finally renounced it.
This shit is real mehn. But wait oo, why should a guy bring out kolanut and all, asking me to swear if he's the only "Moses that crosses my red sea" and I accept. Biko, I smoke weed ni? Why should I try to please someone and then displease myself thereby putting myself in harms way. No be me and you oo, infact na only you Waka come be that.
No swearing, cursing or blood oath/covenant for me, I no fit shout. Please be wise and shine your eyes well well, to avoid running from one prayer house to another .
If someone asks you to swear, flee with your two left legs without looking back, don't go and carry another person's generational curse on your head cos of love. If he/she really loves and trusts you, they won't ask for something as diabolic as that. Ha, I fitn't agree oo. I don commot.
But let me ask you all, do you believe in curses, and will you swear just to keep a relationship or marriage? Let's gist biko.
Do have a beautiful weekend and a happy workers day crib-mates. E-kisses and e-hugs to you all.
