Is being female a crime?

This has really been on the tip of my pen to write for a while now, now I will. But first of all, how una dey? Hope you all had a swell time during the long break? Ehmm, Jummy, hope the sallah meat hasn't finished yet cos I'm coming for mine tomorrow. Lol.

So back to today's post. I've been trying my best to understand the discrimination against female children, while male ones are protected. Female virgins are applauded and in some tribes, it is a must to keep yourself for your husband, but has anyone asked why this isn't applicable to male too? Why are the scales tipped?

Soar higher.

Lord you are EVERYTHING to me. A blessed Sunday to you my dearest friends, yes, you all mean a lot to me. A lot of us aint in our best place at the moment, myself included. So I'm going to tell you what I told myself this morning. DON'T QUIT. I want you to remember that being down at the moment doesn't make you out. Just stand up and try again cos there is always sunshine after rain. Stay STRONG.

Jolly weekend.

Happy Sallah Friday to us all. I'm so sad, I'm so so sad, you guys wont believe it, but up to this very moment, I haven't tasted Sallah meat. I said tasted not even eaten. Chai, this is very bad. I have been trying to avoid my street cos I sleep with the aroma of the cooking and the same aroma wakes me up also. Its well oo. Lol.

No Tantrum today.

Ofcourse, you can't Tantrum on a Sallah day. So, to all our Muslim friends out there, we celebrate with you, and are wishing you a Happy Eid-El-Kabir. Happy Sallah.

Wise education.

Today, I write on a topic rarely mentioned or talked about. As a child, I grew up loving movies. And I still don't know how my elder sister knew a sex scene was about to happen cos she will make an excuse and leave the room, while innocent and naive me will stay put, just for dad to shout "don't you have a book to read?" I ran out of the sitting room feeling embarrassed.

Most parents then didn't believe in sex education. What I know and learnt from sex was given to me later in life by my mum. Lol.    

The question now is, How old should a child be educated about sex? Is teaching a child about sex likely to lead to experimentation? Was it fear that made our parents not tell us about sex early or were they trying to protect us?

As a result of the ignorance most of us have, it has led to mistakes made and inquisitive experimentations which maybe fatal.

I witnessed a mother recently teaching her eight year old daughter how to use a sanitary pad and about sex and boys. I was moved. There and then, I promised myself that my kids won't be naive, or learn it by experimenting. I would teach, educate, enlighten them on the necessary things cos it will make them wise. Mothers and future mothers should do that too.

Happy holidays in advance to you all. Really apologize for the break. Ciao.

Sufficient Grace.

 God is good, All the time. Happy Sunday to you all, how is your beautiful day going? We thank Baba God for life so far. Let this post speak to you and meditate on it. Have a fulfilled week.

Friday feeling funky (FFF).

Finally it's here. Yes, Friday is here. To some, it's a relief but to others who work on weekends, yours truly included, the weekend is just like a work day to us.

Thursday Tantrum.

I am even too weak to Tantrum today. So tired cos I seem drained. I'm even too weak to pen down what's in my head.
Apologies for my disappearing acts, Adulthood happened. Lol. I really can't wait to get my bearing back biko.

Check up Tuesday.

I'm tired of being an adult, can I go back to being a child now? There are some days I really ask myself this question.

Hello my amazing Crib mates, how are you all doing this new week? As for me, I can't wait for this week to be over. Gosh!
What is even the name of that goddess with so many hands? Cos some days I feel two hands ain't just enough. And guess what, I don't even have kids yet. Ghen Ghen!!! The Lord is my bone marrow oh.

I just came in here to check up on you guys. No mail came in for our guest post today. Please and please, you guys should send in emails, if you don't have any, introduce your friends to this blog. Let's keep this spark biko.
Keep on spreading the word, Pammie's Crib is in town. Continue to enjoy your week. Thanks and Cheers.

Positive Sunday.

Happy Sunday to you all. May the goodness of this day be showered upon us all. Amen.

Why the crazy acts?

Yesterday evening after work, I and a lot of other people stood at the Bustop waiting for a means to leave the work environs, but as usual there was no bus. This has become a serious pain to us, closing from work with no means to leave that area, which resulted in us hailing private cars and pray a good Samaritan stops to help. 

So yesterday was a lucky day for me, or so I thought. After my usual "I cover myself with the Blood of Jesus", I entered the so called good Samaritan's car and we sped off. Just few minutes into the ride, he started the usual "what is your name?" and all that, and me being polite in answering. Before I knew it, he had started professing love blabs for me. Ehh! Sharp sharp? That was the fastest "I love you" I've ever heard in my life. I politely asked how come the fast "love", he said he likes my person, shape and all. I just told him
that he should have said he loves my physique and not me cos as far as I'm concerned he knows nothing about me but my name (which by the way, was fake).

Wet Friday.

A rainy and cold Friday to you all. How una see the rain nah? As for me, I was beaten black and blue in it, and right now all I want is to lie down under my duvet and sleep, but I've gat work. If wishes were horses right?

Tantrum Thursday.

Good day lovely Pamscribers, hope you all are doing good today. It's another Tantrum Thursday today, so let us all vent it out here.

Be creative.

Earlier in life, I had learnt an important lesson, its not all what we want, that we get. As a girl, I always wanted a birthday party with friends and candles and the whole ish. Not getting it didn't mean I was loved less, to me, it meant I must try to make my kids enjoy what I couldn't.

In school (primary and secondary), we all wanted to be Doctors, Engineers etc. Yours truly wanted to be a Lawyer. Some ended up achieving such, but some others didn't, I'm in the later group. That doesn't mean I should feel less or loose HOPE of a better/great future cos I WON'T. Life gives us lemons, we make lemonade. The economy we are ain't helping the graduates but somehow, we still keep on hoping for the best.

I was discussing with my hair stylist few days ago, and I found out that despite her graduating with the best grades, she still ended up a stylist. And you know what, she has no regret whatsoever, she appreciates not wasting the opportunity she had to learn hairdressing. It made me to really give it a thought.

Gaining an additional skill different from whatever we studied in school can help us during harsh times. Why sit around as an unemployed fellow while you can be a source of employment yourself? Who knows, whatever skills you learn may not only put smiles on your face, but also on the faces of others too. I know of different people that can testify to it.

Think about it cos I'm really considering not restricting myself to working for someone else, I have to be vast. I read something somewhere that goes thus "why should you work for almost 300 times in a year and collect your salary for only 12 times?" That question actually pushed me to being better. I hope it pushes you too. Be creative dearies. Cheers.

Why the cold feet?

Hello my abled Pamscribers, how are you all doing this beautiful Monday morning, and how was your weekend? Glory be to God for life so far.

Something good is ahead.

A blessed Sunday to us all, May God open new doors for us this month and many months to come. In line with Psalm 16:6, May lines continue to fall in pleasant places for us because we have Godly heritage. Remain favored as always.

That special friend.

Hello everybody, how is your weekend going so far? If you are at home, lucky you cos I'm working and really need to sleep (vigil things last night). 

Joy in single-hood.

I wonder why some people are scared of being single. To me, being single isn't a bad thing. It's the time I reflect and plan about my life and my future. Being single is fun. Lol.
It gives you time to think about yourself, what you want, where you are going to be in the nearest future, etc.

Not a Tantrum Thursday.

Yes, I'm so not throwing tantrums today, I am just going to be thankful. How about that? I 'm thankful for life so far and for how God has ushered us into Ember month. It's really been all God, and I know he'll see us through.

Baby mama/daddy trend.

Am I the only one to notice the now trending fad of "baby mama/ baby daddy syndrome"? A man sowing his "wild oats" everywhere, and  the ladies willing to get pregnant outside wedlock. Thus, not minding their unmarried status.

Prior to now, getting pregnant to a man who isn't married to you was considered a sacrilege, an insult/shame to the girl's family and will likely dampen her chance(s) of getting married.

Fast forward to the present, many ladies are now proud baby mamas. Living a great baby mama life and being successful alongside that title attached to them.

What baffles me is that, do either of the parents take into consideration how the unborn child will feel? Or do they still feel the shame that comes with the act committed, in the form of a stain in the family?  Yes, this was how the girl or family felt in time past. The fear of what your parents will do to you when they find out about the pregnancy is enough for you to tie your legs and padlock your private part. Yes, this is applicable to the guys too, they ain't spared out of it.

Abstinence have been preached, and to those who can't hold body, protection has also been preached. Abstinence still rules though.
Please, this whole baby mama and baby daddy stuff isn't right at all and people shouldn't be proud of it. It's still best to wait till after wedlock before having the babies.
It should just stop abeg. Or what do you think???

Guest-Post : Help, I am in a mess.

A Happy new month to you all my lovelies, and may this month bring unto us joy, peace, favor, more and more of God's blessings, and may all our efforts be turned to great achievements. Amen. 

Let us help the poster below with an advice. Thanks. 

Hello Pam and the good people of Pammie's Crib, I love you all. Please I have something bothering me, I would like your advice on that.

I slept with my boss once. Yes I said it, and I'm so mad at myself for that. It happened during a moment of anger and weakness and I totally regret this.

The thing is, he wants some more and believe me, I do not want it anymore. I've been trying to avoid him, giving him signs that I'm uninterested.
I want to tell him that I am not interested and would not like to do it anymore with him, but the thing is I really don't know how to tell him. I'm in a mess.

Note that I'm not being threatened at work by him or anything. But the guilt is killing me, he sometimes ask when we will see again, I just keep postponing but the truth is, I don't ever want that. I'm a bit afraid on how I'll tell him.

Please help me, how do I tell him that I can't do it anymore. I really want to end this. Help me please. Thank you.